When is it ok to hit a woman? Most people would say never, but why? Why is it not ok to hit a woman, ever?
This is something I have been thinking a lot about recently, and just cannot come up with a rational or intellectually honest argument where I could make such a blanket statement that states is never ok to hit a woman. Realistically, there are times when it is ok to hit a woman, but of course no one wants to come out and admit it because we've been so programmed to think that hitting a woman is one of the biggest 'sins' a person could ever commit. But if we are going to be honest, there are times when hitting a woman is justifiable.
Before I proceed let's be clear, I don't think anyone hitting anyone else, regardless of gender is an appropriate way to handle things. But we have to be honest and admit that, at the end of the day, we are animals who experience intense emotions that override the logical part(s) of our brains on many occasions.
If one is going to say that it is never ok for a man to hit a woman, then one also has to say that it is never ok for a woman to hit a man. But we see women getting away with hitting men all the time. Just do a search on the internet and you'll get tons of examples of women hitting men and getting away with it:
So why are women allowed to get away with abusing men? The primary reasons are that women are portrayed as less threatening, weaker, delicate, and incapable of causing any serious harm to a man. This is, of course, completely false. Women have shown that they are quite capable of causing serious injury to men when they attack them. And don't pretend that women can't be vicious fighters, because they damned sure can be.
Women are also usually excused for their violent actions, as was demonstrated in the video. If the man cheated, lied, or did some other bad thing, then the violence is justified, and even seen as comical in many instances. A woman hitting a man is not a big deal to most people.
So when is it ok to hit a woman? When a woman hits a man is he allowed to defend himself? If it were a woman being hit by a man we'd shout out a loud YES! So, if this is the case then these women better toughen up and expect to be on the receiving end of a swift palm or fist.
Look ladies, if you throw the first punch you are not guaranteed immunity from a retaliatory punch just because you are a woman. You want to be a badass bitch and hit a man? Then you need to be prepared to take the same thing you just dished out. And if that's a fist to the face, well too fucking bad. You can't go around hitting men and then whip out the gender card as a shield. It doesn't work that way... Or, sadly, maybe it does.
I agree completely.
ReplyDeleteIf anyone is tough enough to throw a punch, they're tough enough to take one.
And being physically weaker doesn't change a thing, I could go and find the world's boxing champion or MMA champion, hit them in the face and no one would say anything if they kicked my butt even when I'm surely weaker than they are.
This was a great post.
It's okay under the same circumstances it is okay to hit a man. Simply, eh? ;)
ReplyDeleteExactly. Time to treat women as grownups who are just as accountable for their actions as men are.
DeleteWhat about if a guy walks in on his psycho wife drowning the kids?
ReplyDeleteCan he clock her one then?
Y'know, to get her to let go?
Or, do you have to go into the next room, and write a speech?
In my personal philosophy, I've modified the old 'never hit a woman' line to 'never hit anyone who is most likely unable to effectively fight back'. It's utterly independent of gender, and I think, makes an awful lot more sense. In my own case this does preclude me from hitting most women, and also a awful lot of men - I'm not a small guy - but really, that suits me just fine.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, it unsurprisingly comes with nuances and caveats. Hitting someone in self defense, of course, is usually held to be justified no matter the size or strength or gender of the combatants. For what it's worth I personally define 'self defense' as 'sufficient force to end the attack, and no more'. The problem with aphorisms like 'never hit a woman' is that they fail to acknowledge that the world is rarely black and white, and that circumstances exist.
I like what Parsley says above. If a woman hits a man and she's obviously smaller and weaker than him, I don't think it's necessary for a man to hit her back. There are tons of good ways to hold a person down without using a fist. It should apply to all genders, though. Fighting is fucking stupid unless it's for your life or the life of someone you love.
ReplyDeleteI agree that's how it should work, but paraphrasing one of those aphorisms some feminists love so much, everyone teaches men not to hit back, but no one teaches women not to hit.
DeleteWhen I see a campaign telling women it's never okay to hit a man, I'll start thinking about how to hold an attacker down without using a fist, until that, I'll go by "If anyone is tough enough to throw a punch, they're tough enough to take one."
Didnt you get the memo Woolly? The whitehouse says its never ok.
ReplyDeleteWe see this ad during football games.
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